This Is the Most Important Tip I’ve Learned in the Last 17 Years

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The most important tip I’ve learned in the last 17 years? 

I cannot do it all.

Let that sink in for a second. Even say it out loud if you need to!

I cannot do it all. 

It’s so much more than “I don’t have to do it all” or “I don’t need to do it all.” It’s learning that it’s actually impossible to do it all. And there is so much power in accepting that one simple truth!

But what can I do? 

I can do one good thing at a time, however imperfectly. And that is more than enough.

A woman holds a crying baby while a man, clutching a young boy, stands beside her. All four are dressed formally, standing outdoors in front of green foliage—perhaps posing for a family calendar photo.

Why One Good Thing Has Always Been Enough

I may have fully embraced this lesson now, but boy, did I learn it the hard way! In fact, trying (and failing) to do it all quite literally broke me. 

I struggled with severe postpartum anxiety and depression after each of my four children. And the mental load of running a household—of trying to “DO IT ALL”—while battling my inner demons, eventually led me down a dark path.

I turned to alcohol as a way to cope with the pain I was feeling inside. But as you can imagine, that only added fuel to the fire, and my alcohol consumption quickly became an addiction.

After several chaotic and self-destructive years, I checked into a residential treatment center for addiction. On graduation day, my counselors gave me one crucial piece of advice: find your passion and pursue it. 

A woman sits in a yellow armchair with a colorful laptop and a calendar by her side, wrapped in a blanket near a stone fireplace and small decorated tree.

At the time, focusing on just one thing each day was all I could manage. So naturally, I started a blog and called it One Good Thing. 

Sharing one helpful idea at a time helped me feel grounded again. It helped me rediscover joy in my home and confidence in myself. Over time, it connected me with all of you—women who are doing their best, feeling overwhelmed, and just want a little help every day.

And best of all, it taught me that all-important lesson I shared above: I cannot do it all, but I can do one good thing at a time. And that is enough. I am enough.

A small calendar sits neatly on the counter, keeping you organized each day.

From Overwhelm to “Why Didn’t I Think of That?”

All these years later, I’ve never strayed from my original mission to share one good thing a day, which is exactly why I created my “Why Didn’t I Think of That?” Perpetual Daily Calendar.

It’s my way of taking the best, most practical tips I’ve shared over the years off the internet and into your home. Each day, you’ll flip one page and get one tip. That’s it!

A calendar on a desk shows April 6, featuring a tip to reheat wrinkled clothes in the dryer for easy wrinkle removal. Arrows highlight

These aren’t complicated, time-consuming projects. They’re the kinds of tips that make you smile, shake your head, and say, “Why didn’t I think of that?”

And because it’s a perpetual calendar, it never expires. When you reach the end, you’ll flip it over and start again—year after year.

Six tabletop spiral calendars are displayed in various home settings, each showing different March dates and motivational messages. The calendars are surrounded by decor items like books, plants, and ornaments.

You Don’t Have to Take My Word for It

One of the greatest joys of creating this calendar has been hearing how you’re using it and what it’s meant to you:

“I’ve had this calendar for a few weeks now, and I’ve learned or been reminded of something VALUABLE each day. My rule is not to take sneak peeks ahead!” – Carol O.

I SMILE every time I look at my (Jillee’s) calendar! First, because I love Jillee; second, because this calendar is useful every day.” – Alvalee W.

“I love calendars. This one will be my companion for the rest of my life. Every morning, I look forward to turning the page and seeing Jillee’s advice for the day.” – Angelina C.

“This little calendar sits on my kitchen counter next to my coffee maker. Having it there allows me to get a little surprise help every day. – Vickie

“When my adult daughters come up against a challenge, they always say ‘WWMD?’ Translation: What Would Mom Do? Jillee makes me look so smart with her tips in the ‘Why Didn’t I Think of That?’ perpetual calendar!” – Debbie G.

The Why Didn't I Think of That Calendar has a different tip each day, and each category of tip features a different pastel color.

Many of you have also told me you’ve bought extra copies—not just because you love it, but because it makes such an easy, meaningful gift for sisters, daughters, friends, and anyone who runs a home and could use a little support.

“I LOVE my new perpetual calendar, and am finding out about all sorts of things of a wide variety every day! I also bought these calendars for my daughter, my mother-in-law, and my daughter’s mother-in-law. We are all enjoying them immensely!!” – Geri S.

“This is so great. I bought four so I could share, and I need four more to share even further.” – Suzanne S.

“I bought one for myself a year or so ago and really enjoy the tips every day! This year I bought two more to give my sisters for Christmas.” – Betty I.

A woman stands smiling in the doorway of a house with a yellow door, stone exterior, a wreath, a calendar sign displaying the number 629, and a pineapple.

A Small Daily Reminder That You’re Not Alone

In an ideal world, I would have the chance to come visit each and every one of you, give you a big hug, and say, “You’ve got this.” But until that happens, this is the next best thing!

More than anything, I wanted this calendar to feel like a companion and a reminder that you don’t have to figure everything out by yourself. That small, practical help really does make a difference. And that one good thing—done consistently—can make life feel lighter.

A spiral-bound calendar with the phrase

Earlier this year, I decided to permanently lower the price of this calendar. It’s been a tough financial season for a lot of people, and I wanted this to be something more women could say yes to—whether for themselves or to share with someone they love.

And for the next 24 hours, I’m offering 40% off the calendar! Plus, when you buy 3, you’ll get a 4th completely FREE.

If you’d like one small, daily reminder that you’re capable and supported, I hope this calendar finds its way into your home.

SHOP THE “WHY DIDN’T I THINK OF THAT?” CALENDAR

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Jill Nystul (aka Jillee)

Jill Nystul is an accomplished writer and author who founded the blog One Good Thing by Jillee in 2011. With over 30 years of experience in homemaking, she has become a trusted resource for contemporary homemakers by offering practical solutions to everyday household challenges.I share creative homemaking and lifestyle solutions that make your life easier and more enjoyable!

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3 Comments

  1. Hi Jillee,

    Thank you for your site. Everyday I check into it (even if late at night).
    You have been my for many years,. Today was special to me, as
    at 74 years young, I find myself needing mental support. My husband
    of 40 years has the onset of dementia. My patience is really being tested,
    not to mention the drain on my energy, as I now have to do so much
    more. My love for him has given me extra strength somehow.
    Reading your story, has given me a . I soooo appreciate
    this. I wish you wellness, happiness and more interesting projects.
    With great admiration
    g Burke ❤❤

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  2. I enjoy your column so very much..I used to look forward ro it each day but for some reason have not been receiving it for quitesome time now. That`s why Im writing now…can I get back on the mailing list. I miss you Jillee! Im sure my EMail address is there somewhere and do so look forward to hearing from you…
    Marian Hillyer

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    • Marian, it looks like you accidentally unsubscribed from my newsletter. I have added you back, so you should start receiving it again. :-)

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3 Comments

  1. Hi Jillee,

    Thank you for your site. Everyday I check into it (even if late at night).
    You have been my for many years,. Today was special to me, as
    at 74 years young, I find myself needing mental support. My husband
    of 40 years has the onset of dementia. My patience is really being tested,
    not to mention the drain on my energy, as I now have to do so much
    more. My love for him has given me extra strength somehow.
    Reading your story, has given me a . I soooo appreciate
    this. I wish you wellness, happiness and more interesting projects.
    With great admiration
    g Burke ❤❤

    Please log in or create a free account to comment.
  2. I enjoy your column so very much..I used to look forward ro it each day but for some reason have not been receiving it for quitesome time now. That`s why Im writing now…can I get back on the mailing list. I miss you Jillee! Im sure my EMail address is there somewhere and do so look forward to hearing from you…
    Marian Hillyer

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    • Marian, it looks like you accidentally unsubscribed from my newsletter. I have added you back, so you should start receiving it again. :-)

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